Questions Couples Should Ask (Or Wish They Had) Before Marrying
2006 was the year for weddings in my circle of friends with three very wonderful couples doin' the pimp walk of love down the isle. Since Husbandido and I celebrated our 2nd anniversary just recently, this was timely for me to find. Anyways, for those of you who are considering taking the plunge, here goes. Those of you who aren't, well, save it for later, will ya?
Relationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other critical questions before marrying. Here are a few key ones that couples should consider asking:
1) Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?
2) Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?
3) Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?
4) Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?
5) Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?
6) Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?
7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?
8) Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?
9) Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?
10) Do we like and respect each other’s friends?
11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?
12) What does my family do that annoys you?
13) Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?
14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?
15) Does each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?
I could think of a million more, but I'll leave it up to you to list some questions you wish you asked...to start you off, here's mine:
"Do you hog the sheets? Cause if you do, we gon' be boxin'."
VDC
Comments
Thanks Voodoo, Johnny and I spent sometime discussing your list. We have come to the conclusion after 13 years of marriage that we are really not compatible. :) I think that if we can just settle the issue of not squeezing the toothpaste tube in the middle, we will do OK.
Posted by: steff | December 31, 2006 01:58 PM